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Monday, April 20, 2015
If you missed it on KMEL, Dr. Rosché furthers the discussion… : HOPE
Sunday, April 19, 2015
HOPE
APPs = Applying Positive Practices
Apply the Positive Practice
of HOPE.”
But if we hope for
what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. Romans
8:25
HOPE is “expecting better days; it links
the Now with the Not Yet” (BKLC)
Dr. Rosché says: Loosing
Hope is a major reason why people seek counseling. As a psychologist, I often have to hold the
hope for my client’s even when the situation they speak up seems hopeless. Holding Hope when you are not in the
situation is a lot easier than when you are a victim of a situation.
Why is it often difficult to hold
hope in a situation? In psychology, there is a concept
called learned helplessness
which often happens when there have been so many doors slammed shut in our face
that we begin to believe that
bad things are doomed to happen to us.
This means that even if a door is wide open for me to escape my station,
I will just sit around helplessly because I won’t believe it can ever be
positive for me. I have witnessed this
concept in action in my work with youth in urban communities as well s juvenile
halls. For example, if I grew up with
out parents, in a community where the only successful occupation as a young man
is to be drug dealer or a pimp or as a young woman to use my body for money,
then I may not see a scholarship to college, job corps, trade school, a job as
an opportunity or a door wide open for me.
I may pass up this escape because I am so use to several doors being
shut (i.e. not having parents, being poor, trauma, not feeling loved, betrayal,
teachers disliking me, not liking school, etc…).
How difficult or stressful we
perceive a situation makes the situation more difficult to bear.
This means that gaining hope is a Change of Mindset.
Bishop Clark
says you should use the following steps:
1.
Remember
who you are in God: You are a Child of the Most High
a.
God
loves you and He is all you need. With
Jesus you can make a come back from any and every situation. God can change it
around.
2.
Remember
what He’s already done
a.
It’s
important to look backwards
and recall how God stepped in before
b.
It’s
important to look what God is doing in the Present.
You are still alive breathing, with function of limbs; sound mind, another day
and therefore you have another chance.
c.
It’s
important to look toward the future
that God has for you. God loved you so
much that He gave His only begotten Son. His Son died for you and then
resurrected. Hallelujah! And just as
Jesus resurrected. He will resurrect your situation. Restoration is happening Pray to the Lord:
“Increase my faith and make it
stronger than my doubt.”
3.
Remember
the Truth of His Word
· Romans 8:28 For all things work
together for the good of those who love the Lord.
· Don’t have a cup is half empty
mentality which means that you can only see what’s negative in life.
· Don’t just have a cup is half full mentality which means that you
can see what God is doing but you still notice what is not going right
Have a Cup Runneth Over mentality which
means that God is blessing even in the times you feel disappointed, sad, angry,
misunderstood, unloved. There’s a
blessing just you wait and see.
I
know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same
thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such
close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce
yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success.
Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE
you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process.
I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have
about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.
Catch the next APP to Download for your life
on the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL
or iHeart
radio with
Tinka, Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché
at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.
Dr. Rosché
DrRosche@yahoo.com
DrRosche@yahoo.com
Saturday, April 18, 2015
FOCUS
APPs = Applying Positive
Practices
Apply the Positive Practice
of FOCUS.”
One
thing have I desired of the LORD, that will I seek after; that I may
dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of
the LORD, and to inquire in his temple. Psalms 27:4
FOCUS is “placing your attention (mind)
and affection (heart) on ONE thing” (BKLC)
Dr. Rosché says: Being
Focus is the number one positive practice necessary for success. If you want to change your life for the
better you need to be focused on a goal.
It’s a beautiful thing to have Dreams but it’s more important to have
Vision. Vision is how the dream will
turn into a goal that can become your reality.
For example, it’s a nice Dream to say I want to be rich which will be
evident by driving fancy cars, living in a huge house, having my own plane, and
have a lot of power and influence.
However, if you don’t have a vision as to what talent you possess,
ability you have, knowledge you need to know, the important people you need to
connect to, the strategy you will use to achieve your goals, then your Dream
will never manifest itself. The missing
link to turning your Dream into a Vision is Focus.
Bishop Clark
says you should use the following steps:
- Identify the task
- You need to know what to focus on in order to focus. Too many times we can overwhelm our minds and hearts with too many goals to achieve. Often when we have so much to do it can paralyze us not to do anything at all or haphazardly throw something together that won’t be beneficial or long-lasting. It's paramount that you identify a goal to work along with the talents and abilities you possess to achieve this goal.
- Carve out some time
- In order to get focused, you have to make sure you have time for your vision to materialize. You need time to gain the knowledge about your goal and research all steps necessary to accomplish the goal.
- Stick with it
- It can often be exciting to start a project or goal but it can become difficult in the middle. Don’t give up right before your blessing comes. Remember that faith without works is dead. God has a blessing for you and it’s closer than you think.
“I
press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ
Jesus.” Philippians 3:14
I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.
Catch the next APP to Download for your life
on the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with
Tinka, Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché
Tinka, Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché
at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.
Dr. Rosché
Saturday, April 4, 2015
Forgiveness-Let Go
DrRosche.blogspot.com Download
the APP of “Forgiveness”
APPs = Applying Positive
Practices
Apply the Positive Practice
of FORGIVENESS.”
“…and forgive us our sins, as we have
forgiven those who sin against us.” (Matthew 6:12)
FORGIVENESS is “not letting the past pain
prevent you from dealing with the person in the future” (BKLC)
Dr. Rosché says: Forgiveness
is one of the most difficult things to do because we have suffered a trauma. We
have suffered the fact that we let someone in our hearts, mind, and circle to
be betrayed by them. This act of
betrayal can re-shape our sense of our self, the world, other people, and also
how we view God by believing he allowed this to happen. However, we must take responsibility of who
we let in our lives and furthermore who stays in our lives. Did someone steal from you? Lie to you?
Cheat on you? Abuse you? Hurt you? All of the above? I know it hurts
and you may have a few reminders time to time of this betrayal but remember
that when we hold on to tightly to what hurts us we also prevent ourselves from
receiving all the God has for us. It is
time to LET GO!!!
Let Go to embrace Positivity
- It’s common to hold onto negative feelings such as anger, bitterness, and vengefulness but that often means we can’t embrace positive feelings of peace hope, love, joy, God’s grace, mercy, and FAVOR!!
Let Go to be in the present moment
- So easy to be caught up in our past hurt (what they did, why they did it, and how they could do such a thing) or even our future intentions (when I see them I’m going to…)
Let Go
because you love you
- Forgiveness is for you. It does not minimize the responsibility on what the other person did to you. But it releases the power the person has on you
Bishop Clark
gives us a different perspective on Forgiveness:
- Forgiveness is required but Trust is earned
- This is extremely important to take in. Forgiving them does not mean that we trust them or that we bring them back into our lives in the same way.
- Not going to write you off, but I will figure out how to write you in
- As a Christian, I have to forgive and figure out how I am going treat you in the present due to what you just did to me in the past. This is your decision point: Does this person belong in my life as a partner, friend, or should they only be cordial acquaintances?
- Some people you can give knowledge to but can’t make them think, some want to stay ignorant because they don’t want to change.
- You can attempt to teach someone a better way to treat you but their actions are a tell, tell sign about how they feel or at least their lack of ability to change. Those people you need to just leave alone.
I know it’s WORK
and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because
you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but
break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends
named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but
God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for
HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and
I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your
ability to make progress in this area.
Catch the next APP to Download for your life
on the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with
Tinka, Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché
Tinka, Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché
at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.
Dr. Rosché
510-629-9362 DrRosche@yahoo.com
Acceptance
DrRosche.blogspot.com
Download
the APP “Acceptance”
Acceptance: Embracing and Empowering people by helping
them with their issues.
"Come to me, all you who are weary and
burdened, and I will give you rest."
-Matthew 11:28
Dr. Rosché says:
We
are social beings and seek acceptance from others. It can be emotionally devastating to be an
outsider. When people are not accepted by one group they will continue to seek
and conform themselves to fit in with any group that will accept them. However, this might be the wrong group of
people who might do the accepting.
In my work with Sexually Exploited Minors,
I have had many conversations of young women seeking love and acceptance
because they did not experience it from their parents, foster parents, community,
or even churches. There is a devastating
problem when a young girl experiences a Pimp as Love and Acceptance even though
he really sees product and $$$. This
also happens with young men who don’t feel accepted and experience loyalty from
the “streets” which can also feel like love and acceptance.
Remember:
The group that accepts the other person is the one who has influenced over them. We desire to fit in so much so that we will
change ourselves (value, beliefs, behaviors, appearance) to be in the “in”
crowd. When I am accepted it means that
my uniqueness is valued here. Change
comes through accepting Relationships.
In a nurturing environment that I don’t feel judged for my faults but
valued for my strengths, talents and passions, I will grow. If the environment is making me focused on
enriching me to be better, empowering me to do better, and developing me to
grow then my old ways (behaviors and actions) will pass away and my strengths
will shine and be an asset to ALL.
- Develop Empathy for the Other
- Remember a time when you were not accepted
- Don’t Judge them.
- Show Compassion for their situation
- How can I help you?
- Praise and remind them of their strengths
- We all need some encouragement and reminders of who God designed us to be.
- Watch them Grow!!
- If you plant a seed, then water it, it will grow.
Bishop Clark
Says:
WORDnation and
our upcoming Super Sunrise service is a place where all are accepted.
·
The Agenda for church is the relationship.
·
Can’t Clean a Fish before you Catch it
·
Treat people like you want to be Treated.
·
Jesus has chosen you so God the Father can clean you up!!!
Happy
Resurrection Sunday!!
I know it’s WORK
and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because
you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but
break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends
named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but
God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for
HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and
I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your
ability to make progress in this area.
Catch
the next APP to Download for your life
on
the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with Tinka,
Bishop
Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.
Dr. Rosché
DrRosche@yahoo.com
What if I am a Hater?
DrRosche.blogspot.com
Response to IGNORE your Haters: “What if I am a Hater?”
Question from a reader: “So...
What happens when you discover that you have been a hater? What steps can you
take to get out of that situation? How does a hater mend broken relationships?
Dr. Rosché says:
1.
First and foremost you must Admit when you are or
have been wrong.
Have you ever been jealous of
another person’s success? Have you
believed they did not work hard for
their success like you have? Have you
been the person who discouraged other people’s dreams? Have you created
negativity that caused another person to be distracted? If you placed yourself on the receiving
end of your behavior or words, how might you feel about what was said or felt
about you? Sad? Angry? Discouraged? Upset? Etc.…
2.
If you have been a Hater, then you have to S.T.O.P.
Stay, Training,
Oneself to be Positive.
·
Do the opposite action: Take the Positive
Challenge.
·
Say 2 Positive things to those you have hated on
in the past.
o
If you Distracted, the give them suggestions on
being Focused
o
If you Discouraged them, send them encouraging
words
o
If you attempted to Destroy them, Uplift them
instead.
·
Self-Work: Explore what inside of you is being
triggered by this person’s success.
·
Change your outlook on others success and FOCUS
on your success
STOP comparing yourself with others.
God has given you gifts, talents, and abilities that make you unique and if you
are mindful of the favor God has anointed you with then you will experience the
same amount of success as others will. Don't kill their dreams because
you don't want anyone to kill yours. Stay Positive.
Keep it
POP'n (Positive on Purpose)
I know it’s WORK
and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because
you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but
break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends
named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but
God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for
HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and
I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your
ability to make progress in this area.
Catch
the next APP to Download for your life
on
the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with Tinka,
Bishop
Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.
Dr. Rosché
DrRosche@yahoo.com
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