Monday, April 20, 2015

If you missed it on KMEL, Dr. Rosché furthers the discussion… : HOPE



Don't have a cup half empty mentality and don't only have a cup is half full but walk into "My Cup Runneth Over" Mentality. Check out DrRosche.blogspot.com for more integration spirituality and psychology concepts.
 
If you missed it on KMEL, Dr. Rosché furthers the discussion… : HOPE: APP s = A pplying P ositive P ractices A pply the P ositive P ractice of HOPE .” But if we hope for what we do no...

Sunday, April 19, 2015

HOPE

APPs = Applying Positive Practices

Apply the Positive Practice of HOPE.”
But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. Romans 8:25
HOPE is “expecting better days; it links the Now with the Not Yet (BKLC)
Dr. Rosché says:  Loosing Hope is a major reason why people seek counseling.  As a psychologist, I often have to hold the hope for my client’s even when the situation they speak up seems hopeless.   Holding Hope when you are not in the situation is a lot easier than when you are a victim of a situation. 
Why is it often difficult to hold hope in a situation?  In psychology, there is a concept called learned helplessness which often happens when there have been so many doors slammed shut in our face that we begin to believe that bad things are doomed to happen to us.  This means that even if a door is wide open for me to escape my station, I will just sit around helplessly because I won’t believe it can ever be positive for me.  I have witnessed this concept in action in my work with youth in urban communities as well s juvenile halls.  For example, if I grew up with out parents, in a community where the only successful occupation as a young man is to be drug dealer or a pimp or as a young woman to use my body for money, then I may not see a scholarship to college, job corps, trade school, a job as an opportunity or a door wide open for me.  I may pass up this escape because I am so use to several doors being shut (i.e. not having parents, being poor, trauma, not feeling loved, betrayal, teachers disliking me, not liking school, etc…). 
How difficult or stressful we perceive a situation makes the situation more difficult to bear.   
This means that gaining hope is a Change of Mindset.
Bishop Clark says you should use the following steps:
1.     Remember who you are in God: You are a Child of the Most High
a.    God loves you and He is all you need.  With Jesus you can make a come back from any and every situation. God can change it around.
2.    Remember what He’s already done
a.    It’s important to look backwards and recall how God stepped in before
b.   It’s important to look what God is doing in the Present. You are still alive breathing, with function of limbs; sound mind, another day and therefore you have another chance.
c.    It’s important to look toward the future that God has for you.  God loved you so much that He gave His only begotten Son. His Son died for you and then resurrected.  Hallelujah! And just as Jesus resurrected. He will resurrect your situation.  Restoration is happening  Pray to the Lord:
“Increase my faith and make it stronger than my doubt.”
3.    Remember the Truth of His Word
·      Romans 8:28 For all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord.
·      Don’t have a cup is half empty mentality which means that you can only see what’s negative in life. 
·      Don’t just have a cup is half full mentality which means that you can see what God is doing but you still notice what is not going right
Have a Cup Runneth Over mentality which means that God is blessing even in the times you feel disappointed, sad, angry, misunderstood, unloved.  There’s a blessing just you wait and see. 




I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

Catch the next APP to Download for your life
on the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with
Tinka, Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché
at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.
Dr. Rosché
DrRosche@yahoo.com

Saturday, April 18, 2015

FOCUS




APPs = Applying Positive Practices

Apply the Positive Practice of FOCUS.”
One thing have I desired of the LORD, that will I seek after; that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the LORD, and to inquire in his temple. Psalms 27:4

FOCUS is “placing your attention (mind) and affection (heart) on ONE thing (BKLC)
Dr. Rosché says:  Being Focus is the number one positive practice necessary for success.  If you want to change your life for the better you need to be focused on a goal.  It’s a beautiful thing to have Dreams but it’s more important to have Vision.  Vision is how the dream will turn into a goal that can become your reality.  For example, it’s a nice Dream to say I want to be rich which will be evident by driving fancy cars, living in a huge house, having my own plane, and have a lot of power and influence.  However, if you don’t have a vision as to what talent you possess, ability you have, knowledge you need to know, the important people you need to connect to, the strategy you will use to achieve your goals, then your Dream will never manifest itself.  The missing link to turning your Dream into a Vision is Focus.  
Bishop Clark says you should use the following steps:
  1. Identify the task
    1. You need to know what to focus on in order to focus.  Too many times we can overwhelm our minds and hearts with too many goals to achieve.  Often when we have so much to do it can paralyze us not to do anything at all or haphazardly throw something together that won’t be beneficial or long-lasting. It's paramount that you identify a goal to work along with the talents and abilities you possess to achieve this goal.
 
  1. Carve out some time
    1. In order to get focused, you have to make sure you have time for your vision to materialize.  You need time to gain the knowledge about your goal and research all steps necessary to accomplish the goal.
 
  1. Stick with it
    1. It can often be exciting to start a project or goal but it can become difficult in the middle. Don’t give up right before your blessing comes. Remember that faith without works is dead.  God has a blessing for you and it’s closer than you think.

 
“I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:14


I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

Catch the next APP to Download for your life
on the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with
Tinka, Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché
at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.

Dr. Rosché

Saturday, April 4, 2015

Forgiveness-Let Go


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APPs = Applying Positive Practices

Apply the Positive Practice of FORGIVENESS.”
 
“…and forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us.” (Matthew 6:12)
 
FORGIVENESS is “not letting the past pain prevent you from dealing with the person in the future (BKLC)
 
Dr. Rosché says:  Forgiveness is one of the most difficult things to do because we have suffered a trauma. We have suffered the fact that we let someone in our hearts, mind, and circle to be betrayed by them.  This act of betrayal can re-shape our sense of our self, the world, other people, and also how we view God by believing he allowed this to happen.  However, we must take responsibility of who we let in our lives and furthermore who stays in our lives.  Did someone steal from you? Lie to you? Cheat on you? Abuse you? Hurt you? All of the above? I know it hurts and you may have a few reminders time to time of this betrayal but remember that when we hold on to tightly to what hurts us we also prevent ourselves from receiving all the God has for us.  It is time to LET GO!!!
 
Let Go to embrace Positivity
  • It’s common to hold onto negative feelings such as anger, bitterness, and vengefulness but that often means we can’t embrace positive feelings of peace hope, love, joy, God’s grace, mercy, and FAVOR!! 
Let Go to be in the present moment
  • So easy to be caught up in our past hurt (what they did, why they did it, and how they could do such a thing) or even our future intentions (when I see them I’m going to…)
Let Go because you love you
  • Forgiveness is for you. It does not minimize the responsibility on what the other person did to you.  But it releases the power the person has on you

Bishop Clark gives us a different perspective on Forgiveness:
  • Forgiveness is required but Trust is earned
    • This is extremely important to take in.  Forgiving them does not mean that we trust them or that we bring them back into our lives in the same way.
  • Not going to write you off, but I will figure out how to write you in
    • As a Christian,  I have to forgive and figure out how I am going treat you in the present due to what you just did to me in the past.  This is your decision point:  Does this person belong in my life as a partner, friend, or should they only be cordial acquaintances?

  • Some people you can give knowledge to but can’t make them think, some want to stay ignorant because they don’t want to change. 
    • You can attempt to teach someone a better way to treat you but their actions are a tell, tell sign about how they feel or at least their lack of ability to change.  Those people you need to just leave alone. 

I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

Catch the next APP to Download for your life
on the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with
Tinka, Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché
at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.
Dr. Rosché


          510-629-9362                                                                                            DrRosche@yahoo.com

Acceptance



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Download the APP “Acceptance”

Acceptance: Embracing and Empowering people by helping them with their issues.

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."
-Matthew 11:28
Dr. Rosché says:  
We are social beings and seek acceptance from others.  It can be emotionally devastating to be an outsider. When people are not accepted by one group they will continue to seek and conform themselves to fit in with any group that will accept them.  However, this might be the wrong group of people who might do the accepting.  

In my work with Sexually Exploited Minors, I have had many conversations of young women seeking love and acceptance because they did not experience it from their parents, foster parents, community, or even churches.  There is a devastating problem when a young girl experiences a Pimp as Love and Acceptance even though he really sees product and $$$.  This also happens with young men who don’t feel accepted and experience loyalty from the “streets” which can also feel like love and acceptance.

Remember: The group that accepts the other person is the one who has influenced over them.  We desire to fit in so much so that we will change ourselves (value, beliefs, behaviors, appearance) to be in the “in” crowd.  When I am accepted it means that my uniqueness is valued here.  Change comes through accepting Relationships.  In a nurturing environment that I don’t feel judged for my faults but valued for my strengths, talents and passions, I will grow.  If the environment is making me focused on enriching me to be better, empowering me to do better, and developing me to grow then my old ways (behaviors and actions) will pass away and my strengths will shine and be an asset to ALL. 
  • Develop Empathy for the Other
    • Remember a time when you were not accepted
    • Don’t Judge them.
  • Show Compassion for their situation
    • How can I help you?
  • Praise and remind them of their strengths
    • We all need some encouragement and reminders of who God designed us to be.
  • Watch them Grow!!
    • If you plant a seed, then water it, it will grow.  

Bishop Clark Says:
WORDnation and our upcoming Super Sunrise service is a place where all are accepted. 

·      The Agenda for church is the relationship. 
·      Can’t Clean a Fish before you Catch it
·      Treat people like you want to be Treated. 
·      Jesus has chosen you so God the Father can clean you up!!!

Happy Resurrection Sunday!!


I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

Catch the next APP to Download for your life
on the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with Tinka,
Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.

Dr. Rosché
DrRosche@yahoo.com 



What if I am a Hater?


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Response to IGNORE your Haters: What if I am a Hater?”

Question from a reader: “So... What happens when you discover that you have been a hater? What steps can you take to get out of that situation? How does a hater mend broken relationships?

Dr. Rosché says:  
1.     First and foremost you must Admit when you are or have been wrong. 

Have you ever been jealous of another person’s success?  Have you believed they did not  work hard for their success like you have?  Have you been the person who discouraged other people’s dreams? Have you created negativity that caused another person to be distracted?  If you placed yourself on the receiving end of your behavior or words, how might you feel about what was said or felt about you? Sad? Angry? Discouraged? Upset? Etc.…

2.     If you have been a Hater, then you have to S.T.O.P. 

Stay, Training, Oneself to be Positive.

·      Do the opposite action: Take the Positive Challenge. 
·      Say 2 Positive things to those you have hated on in the past. 
o   If you Distracted, the give them suggestions on being Focused
o   If you Discouraged them, send them encouraging words
o   If you attempted to Destroy them, Uplift them instead.
·      Self-Work: Explore what inside of you is being triggered by this person’s success. 
·      Change your outlook on others success and FOCUS on your success 

STOP comparing yourself with others. God has given you gifts, talents, and abilities that make you unique and if you are mindful of the favor God has anointed you with then you will experience the same amount of success as others will.  Don't kill their dreams because you don't want anyone to kill yours.  Stay Positive. 
 Keep it POP'n  (Positive on Purpose)  

I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

Catch the next APP to Download for your life
on the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with Tinka,
Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.

Dr. Rosché
DrRosche@yahoo.com