IGNORE the Haters

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“Apply the Positive Practice of IGNORE the Haters.”

Sanballat, Tobiah, Geshem the Arab, and the rest of our enemies (i.e. Haters) found out that I had finished rebuilding the wall and that no gaps remained—though we had not yet set up the doors in the gates. ² So Sanballat and Geshem sent a message asking me to meet them at one of the villages^[a] in the plain of Ono. But I realized they were plotting to harm me, ³ so I replied by sending this message to them: “I am engaged in a great work, so I can’t come. Why should I stop working to come and meet with you?” ⁴Four times they sent the same message, and each time I gave the same reply. (Nehemiah 6:1-4) NLT

IGNORE the Haters: give no attention or affection to the things or people who are bound to distract you. (BKLC)

Dr. Rosché says:  IGNORE is often used in psychology when teaching parents how to IGNORE the negative behaviors of their children in order to change their negative behavior(s).  This same sentiment can be captured in teaching us how to IGNORE our Haters. Haters, meaning those who try to Distract, Discourage, and Destroy us through actions and words unintentionally and especially those who do this intentionally, don’t deserve any of our attention nor affection.  In order to begin IGNORing our Haters we need to practice:

• Resisting the Pull of our natural reaction to respond to their Hatin’. 
• It’s often difficult to not give in to our natural reaction to yell, comment, and acknowledge another person’s negative behavior.  Ignoring requires you to Not Acknowledge them.  Haters have no power unless you acknowledge them (Tinka) 
• Recognize that once you first stop being bothered by your Haters, they will escalate
• Most haters are close to us and Know exactly what to say or do in order to get under our skin.  So once they realize you are trying to be better or not give in to their attacks, they will go Harder in trying to get you to react.  Be like Nehemiah and tell them “I am engaged in a great work, so I can’t come. Why should I stop working to come and meet with you?”  -Haters are not important and therefore should not be your Priority.
• Remember to Stay Consistent
• Consistency in your efforts to IGNORE will over time alleviate you of those Haters.  They will see their efforts have no effect on you so their time is wasted and they will flee.  Resist the Devil, and He will Flee!!  Nehimiah had to tell them 4 times before they stopped and you will have to do the same. 

Bishop Clark says:

Haters are our elevators to the next level

Indicator that we are on the right track to change

Haters Criticize and publicize our weakness to minimize our success

People hate for one of 4 reasons

B ecause of who you are

·         They see something in you that they wish they could be. You are smart, beautiful, determined, positive, loving, caring, outspoken, confident, overall favored by God.

B ecause of what you have

·         They see blessings all around you.  You are God’s Favorite person to Bless.  Thank God for past gifts, present blessings, and future favor!!

B ecause of where you are going

·         They see that God is your Father who has ALL and is helping you be and get MORE! More success, more accomplishments, more positivity, more favor in the eyes of others…

B ecause of what you’re doing  

·         They see your victory before you can even see it and they are mad about it.  They see that God is showing you great favor due to the Faith you have shown by your Works. 

When they Hate GO HARDER!!!

Go Harder in your success.  If you have a successful business, start another one!  If you have a loving relationship, show more affection to your partner! If you are confident, smile brighter! If you have one degree, get another degree!  If you have a house, get nice furniture and a car too!  If you have a story that they know about, write a book! If you are favored, be more thankful and pleasing to God for More Favor!  Go Hard, and send them Home!!!

I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

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“Apply the Positive Practice of Obedience.”

“If you Love me, then you will obey my commandments.” (John 14:15)

Obedience is listening to God with a purpose so you can live the BEST life. (BKLC)

Dr. Rosché says:  Most humans have no problem with being obedient.  In past psychological studies, Milgram and Stanford Prison Experiment, the participants obeyed their role in the study to the detriment of other people and even in if it was in conflict to their own moral values because they perceived the researcher to have authority.  We often obey others when we perceive they have authority over our lives.  We make it to work because we know that our employer or manager has authority to stop our check. We obey deadlines at school because the teacher has authority over our grades.  We follow our parents, friends or significant others in different activities or interactions because we don’t want to intercept the relationships. So we know how to obey, but who has authority or influence over our life will show who we will obey. 

Does God have authority over your Life?

In most of the above examples, it can be noticed that obeying is happening due to fear of the unknown?  However, according to John 14:15, God wants us to obey out of our Love for Him and in turn our Love for ourselves.  Have you ever noticed that in obeying God we are pleasing Him but also benefiting ourselves.  When I make the choice not to fornicate, I am pleasing God but also preventing potential physical repercussions such as STDs or AIDs or emotional turmoil such as heartache and disappointment.  When I make the choice to not gossip, I am pleasing God but also preventing the possibility that I will be considered messy or untrustworthy.  When I make the choice of not committing adultery, not lying and not stealing, I am pleasing God, but also remaining a virtuous person. God desires us to have the BEST life and we can have it as long as we obey him and stay in step with the Holy Spirit.

Bishop Clark says that you deserve the  B.E.S.T life

B etter quality of life

·         Better is only valid in comparison to something worse.  You deserve the Best that God has for you and not just better. 

E nriched

·         You want to have an Enriched life full of all lives pleasures

Safer life

·         A life not full of Drama and Chaos just because it’s familiar to you.  The safest place in the whole wide world is in the Will of God.

T riumphant

• It’s time to step into vicotry. Obedience allows you the ability to have more opprotunity for Success. 

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“Apply the Positive Practice of Patience with God’s Promise”

Now the LORD was gracious to Sarah as he had said, and the LORD did for Sarah what he had promised. Sarah became pregnant and bore a son to Abraham in his old age, at the very time God had promised him. (Genesis 21:1-2)

Patience with God’s Promise is understanding

 “It’s Yours but are you waiting on it or is it waiting on you?” (BKLC)

Dr. Rosché says:  This whole month of February we discussed the importance of patience, which is “waiting with the right attitude.”  In our lives we must be patient with others to show love, patient with ourselves to show hope, but most importantly patient with God to show Faith.  In the above biblical account, Sarah and Abraham had to wait several years before God showed them manifestation of the promise he had spoken to them.  Sometimes we ask the Lord when will it be my turn? My turn to have enough money to supply my needs and wants? My turn to have a husband? My turn to have a wife? My turn to have a house? My turn to have children? My turn, My turn, My turn!!!  Psalms 37:4 states that if we “take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” God has planted dreams and promises inside of us and desires for us to have everything beyond what we ask and think. 

However, the question is not when will it be my turn but am I ready for what God has for me?  If you are ready, it will be shown in your behavior.  You don’t have excess money, but are you a good money manager (tithes, savings, bills paid on time)? You don’t have a husband or wife, but are you emotionally ready for unforeseen ups and downs of the relationship? To the men: Are you a Manager? Women: Are you a Helper? You don’t have a house, but are you willing to make necessary sacrifices to get it? You want children but are you willing to go through the correct biblical order in becoming a

Man>Husband>Father                    Woman>Wife>Mother?

Are you Ready, Ready, Ready?

Bishop Clark explains the process is taking time in order for God to...

Shape Us

·         Getting us ready for what God has prepared.  Are you mentally, emotionally, socially, physically, spiritually developed enough to accept the promise?

Strengthen Us

·         Are you ready for everything that comes with the promise? Are you ready for the responsibilities? Management? Haters?

Show Us

·         Who He is in our lives.  Are you ready to give God all the glory?  Will you worship and praise Him even after you get what you want?  Will you continue to go to church and be his servant in ministry? 

I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

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“Apply the Positive Practice of Personal Patience.”

Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. (Philippians 3:12)

 

Patience with Self is understanding “you are not there yet, but you are on your way” (BKLC)

 

Dr. Rosché says:  It is difficult to be Patient with Others and even more so difficult to be Patient with Yourself.  Have you ever reflected and thought I should have a better job by now. I wish I went back to school. I should’ve handled that situation better. I should be doing better emotionally, mentally, physically, etc…  These are very familiar or common feelings and the truth is all of these statements are us not being patient with ourselves in the process of maturing.  The first thing to identify is your pattern of thinking about your position in life.  We all have thinking that may be illogical or irrational and ultimately not true and it’s called irrational thinking pattern.    

• Do you Catastrophize? Which means make something bigger than it is? Now that I have broken up with my partner, I will be alone forever!! Now that I have lost my job I am going to loose my house, car, etc…
• Do you have All or Nothing Thinking? Which means if it doesn’t go exactly how you planned then you have failed? He didn’t propose this year so I will never get married. I didn’t loose all the weight I wanted to so I am a failure.  They don’t like me so I am not likable.
• Do you Minimize your successes and Maximize your Problems? I lost 5 pounds but I should’ve lost 10 pounds.  I finished my first year of college but I should’ve done this years ago.  I went to church twice this month, but I should’ve gone all month long.  I said one thing positive about myself, but I am still negative most of the time. 

Being consumed with questioning your progress and not celebrating the journey of the process can be detrimental to your mental health.  It can cause you to experience a level of depression or hopelessness about what your future holds.

Bishop Clark says that you need to T.R.Y.

T alk positive to you

·         When you feel defeated and depleted you must encourage yourself

Refuse to see your failures as final

·         Christianity is all about hope.  Say to yourself that “I’m not there yet but I am on my way.”  Once you build potential on the inside you can handle the pressures of the outside. 

Yet Mentality

·         Have vision of your future. 

o   If you are a visual learner then spend time developing a vision board

o   If you are an auditory learner then say it out loud to hear yourself claim victory over your life and circumstances. 

We must feel our dreams coming true in all of our senses.  It is time to see it, hear it, touch it, smell it, and taste it.  Psalms 34:8 says Oh taste and see that the Lord is good, blessed is the man that trusteth in him.

I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

Catch the next APP to Download for your life 

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“Apply the Positive Practice of PATIENCE with People"

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering (PATIENCE), gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

(Galatians 5:22-23)

PATIENCE is "waiting with the right attitude” (BKLC)

Dr. Rosché says: We all desire to have what we want when we want it and how we want it.We are born with this desire as we all know that babies cry and experiencing a level of distress when they don't get what they want when they want it. Toddlers throw tantrums and Teenagers develop negative attitudes followed by rebellion and disobedience. Many adults know and understand this experience very well. When will my baby daddy step up and be a better father? When will my baby momma stop using my child as a pawn to get what she wants? When will my children start listening to me? When will my loved one grow up and stop acting like child? Overall, when will they get what I am trying to say to them to help improve their lives? So the question is how do we grow up and change our attitude about waiting, especially on other's behaviors to change?

In order to be patient or wait with the right attitude, it begins with changing your internal dialogue.

A) Pay attention to when you are not patient

B) Know your triggers

C) What are you saying to yourself about the situation or person?

D) What is the storyline about how they are wrong? Need to change Now?

Change the Narrative in your head?

Where we often go astray with the becoming patient is that we often try to change the other person that is causing our discomfort. But the problem is that it’s not them whom we have control over but only our mindset and ourselves.

In order to have the right attitude with people Bishop Keith Clark says you have to

• Stop Complaining
• Stop Comparing the person with others and evaluate them on their own merit
• Prayerfully and positively encourage them to make necessary changes
• Only continue patience with those who are making Attempts and not Excuses

Patience is endurance in difficult circumstances, which means it is important to notice your feelings then respond instead of react when you become impatient with others pace of progress. Once you master this you will be happier, peaceful and successful!!!

I know it’s WORKand it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

Catch the next APP to Download for your life

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at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.

 

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“Apply the Positive Practice of PATIENCE like Job.”

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. (James 1:2-4)

PATIENCE is “to wait with the right attitude in the Perfecting Process” (BKLC)

Dr. Rosché says: Many times in our lives we struggle with being patient while God is trying to perfect us. Is God trying to teach you a lesson? Have you been a good student or are you repeating the course over and over? Maybe God is trying to teach you how to trust him with your money so you often find yourself without? Maybe God is trying to mature you through the process of being broken hearten? Maybe God is trying to help you build your self-esteem through your season of singleness? Maybe God is helping you with decision-making by allowing you to experience some painful consequences of your poor choices? Maybe God desires you to learn how to depend on him through your period of unemployment? Overall, Maybe God wants you to be fruitful?

Know that Opposition is your Opportunity to bear fruit (BKLC-Galatians 5:22). There is no better way to learn more about Gods ways but through life experiences. Remember "It was good for me that I have been afflicted; that I might learn thy statutes (Psalms 119:71)." We only know God as Jehovah-Shalom or Jehovah-Jireh or Jehovah-Nissi or Jehovah-Rapha only after we needed PEACE or Provision or Victory or Healing. So to start the process of Patience you must be mindful about what you are telling yourself concerning your situation. Approach trials as an opportunity to ask God what do you want me to learn from this?

Bishop Keith Clark (BKLC) says

Trusts God’s intentions

·         God doesn’t want you to be Bitter but Better!

·         Crisis brings the Christ in us Out

Understand emotion (s) that occurs between Expectation& Manifestation

·         Expectation-the belief something will happen

·         Manifestation-seeing and living your expectation

·         You must build vocabulary about emotions in order to identify them correctly and manage them effectively

Praise God while you are in it and the time will go by faster

·         Don’t fight the process, Just Thank and Praise Him in Advance

I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

Catch the next APP to Download for your life

on the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with Tinka,

Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché

at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.

Dr. Rosché

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Over the past few years with the increase and growth of technology, especially smart phones, we have been given the ability to play games, catch sport scores, count calories, pay bills, update social media and a plethora of other things at the palm of our hands. Everything has been made easier through the use of Applications aka APPs. This year my Pastor, Bishop Keith L. Clark (BKLC), has decided that we will begin to do some WORK spiritually and psychologically to make our lives better by Downloading APPs every week throughout the 2015 year.

“Apply the Positive Practice of TIME MANAGEMENT.”

A person’s days are determined; you have decreed the number of his months and have set limits he cannot exceed. (Job 14: 5)

TIME MANAGEMENT is “to handle correctly the TIME God gives us” (BKLC)

Dr. Rosché says: Have you ever wanted to have greater productivity? Ever wanted increased opportunities for advancement? Ever wanted to achieve important life and career goals? Ever desired less stress in your life? Have you ever looked up and wondered where has the time gone? If you answered YES to any of these questions, then the key to improving your life is TIME MANAGEMENT. Time management is a positive practice that encompasses all of the previous positive practices covered this month. In order to have Balance you need to have time management, in order to maintain time management you must practice Faithfulness and Discipline.

Sense of Time:

A major issue that is not often discussed is the fact that in order to begin with Time management you must have a sense of time. Time is finite to us but often because we indulge in activities that don't add to our lives and may only be a waste of time (i.e. partying, watching TV, gossiping on the phone, etc…). Sometimes we experience a level of dissociation due to issues of past trauma and/or our tendency to self-medicate (i.e. drug and alcohol intake) to get rid of our pain. These activities often lead us to consciously or unconsciously make decisions of no longer connecting to our emotions or thoughts. We must determine if our sense of time is compromised by our own improper coping with daily life stressors. If so, then we must start with replacing our maladaptive coping skills with some more adaptive and positive coping measures before dealing with our ability to practice time management.

Time Management Skills

If you have matured or have dealt with the above issues and they are no longer your concern, but you continue to struggles with organizing and planning how you spend your time effectively. Then, you are in need of the ability to manage your T.I.M.E.

• Take inventory of what’s important (prioritize)
• In order to do this you first need to journal and determine how you often spend your time. Is it time wasted or is it result oriented?
• Plan your day with a To Do list and attempt to adhere to it
• Invest in the right people, places, and practices
• Focus your energy into what and who produces results and postpone unnecessary activity
• Set boundaries with people if they are becoming a distraction
• Block out distractions: There has to be moments in life where you don’t check email, answer phone calls, or waste time checking FB statuses, Twitter messages, or uploading Instagram photos
• Maximize what’s helpful, minimize what’s stressful
• Vision boards are extremely helpful to maximize results. It’s important to visualize where you would like to see yourself within the next year, 5 years, 10 years. So you can begin setting goals to get there!!
• Don’t take on more than you can handle
• Use planners or phone calendars. I have found that scheduling tasks in my phone has been the most helpful because reminders will pop up that tell me what must be done.
• Evaluate what’s not working…and CHANGE it.
• Reduce procrastination which means get out of your own way to success. Don't put of for tomorrow what you can do today.
• A major pitfall in time management is ineffectively scheduling how much time a task may actually take.
• Identify helpful resources (people or practices) that can reduce the amount of energy it may take to complete a task. "Work smarter not harder"

Include “ME TIME” Remember to always schedule in breaks and self-care activities which mean hanging with friends and family but don’t let these activities consume your day and overall your life. These skills are never developed overnight so be kind to yourself and you don’t have to be perfect but definitely practice, practice, practice.

I know it’s WORK and it’s easier to continue to do the same thing over and over again because you and Drama have become such close friends over the years, but break yourself from this friend and introduce yourself to some new friends named Peace, Hope, and Success. Nobody said it would be easy, but God hasn’t brought you this far to LEAVE you. Remember to ask for HIS Guidance in beginning this process. I am here for you too and I’m willing to answer any questions you may have about what hinders your ability to make progress in this area.

Catch the next APP to Download for your life on the World Hit Gospel Show on 106 KMEL or iHeart radio with Tinka, Bishop Keith Clark, and Dr. Rosché at 6 am—10am on Sunday Mornings.

Dr. Rosché

                       510-629-9362                                                         DrRosche@yahoo.com